What is attachment? And what is love?
The worlds seems to confused between both of this concepts.
Let us try to understand them and distinguish them apart.
Every human relation you ever came into, may it be a relationship of a mother with the child, or a pet owner for his pet or a romantic one, they are all attachments. Try to understand this, where there are two, a duality, a relationship, a transaction, it is attachment, no matter how pure, deep or strong. It is still attachment.
Love on the other hand had no other, there is just one, there is nothing else but that one, not even the self. That is Love.
Confused?
If you are well congratulations, you have at least started to question and analyses what you just read.
Let is study attachment, love and the need for this in an individual.
When we say attachment we don’t mean it in a negative way. Attachments are important in the material world, in the external world to become something or achieve something you need to learn the art of relationship and of course that leads to attachment. Lets see it in a very basic way, we as a biological machine have lots of need to sustain the life that we are, we need food, protection, nurture and procreation. All of this activity are very important for life to go on and evolve, and with that we also also developed a stimulant within ourselves which makes us feel happy, satisfied and powerful whenever we fulfill our needs. This and only this is the evolutionary importance of the “feel happy” hormones in our body. They are extremely important to check our survival and keep a healthy body. As life got complex so did its need, now you don’t just want nurture of love but also have demands and expectations.
We have needs which will give birth to a relationship. A mother is so much attached to its baby, not just physically but chemically and mentally that it is considered as the purest form of love. With all due respect to its need and importance its just a very strong form of attachment. Similarly as we are build to be social animals we do depend on other people for our different needs, we have a physical need, emotional need, intellectual need and so on and. Hence we make relationships, friendships, groups, so on and so forth.
Love on the other hand, has nothing to do with the external world. Nothing at all what so ever, love is something that happens within, love has no needs, it has no duality, it has no pleasure, it has no happiness, its a very state of being. Blissful, connected, where there is no other, where there is nothing other. Its when you have transcended the duality, it is when consciously or unconsciously you erased your so believed “identity”.
People say love makes you selfless, makes you compassionate, makes you serve everything and everyone around you, maybe it does.
Love can do this to you if you can connect with that dimension within, join us at H-foundation and take your first step towards that dimension within.